“Life is a turning wheel.” is an idiom that is used the Oshiwambo language, to point out the constantly changing sides of life. The life wheel rotates so that we all get turns to experience its ups and downs. Regardless of which side of the wheel you may find yourself today, life will go on and we’ll have to endure and then thrive. After all, the fittest survive, right? Through this post, I bring you the tips I use to get through my turn at the bottom of the mighty wheel of life.
Take stock of where you are and how you got here
This is not permission to neglect accountability and start pointing fingers. But its important to know how we got here, if we are to prevent the same thing from happening in future. Take responsibility, acknowledge the role you played and move on. If there is something you can do to change the situation, take the steps needed. But also recognize and accept things that you cannot control as they are. Without self-blame, learn from these situations and move on. No one and nothing has the power to bring your life to a standstill, unless you allow them.
Let go
According to the power of attraction, we attract the energy we give. Which is probably why we hear people going through things like “tragedies after tragedies.” Moving on does not mean not talking to people and being angry at your house. Do the groundwork to forgive yourself and other people for whatever role they played. And then Let. It. Go. Remember that forgiveness is not for others, but it’s for you. It is easier to move on when you don’t have all the baggage on your shoulders.
Priscilla Shirer once said: “The challenges we experience in life happen for us; not to us.” You are more likely to indulge in self-pity when you think things are happening to you, because then it never looks like you have any control or benefits from the situation. Have the mental attitude that the challenges you are going through are meant to strengthen and prepare you for what is to come. Life has these connected events of attractions that you and I may only be able to explain looking back. “You cannot connect the dots going forward; you can only connect them looking backwards” – Steve Jobs.
Leave a Reply